“The secret life of strong Black women”


APRIL IS STRESS AWARENESS MONTH...

and if we are being honest, many Black women are not just stressed. WE ARE STRESS! We are the calendar, the reminder app, the emotional support hotline, the backup plan, the “I got it” friend, and the person everyone calls when things fall apart.

The problem is that a lot of what people call “strength” is really over-functioning. It is answering the text when you are exhausted, saying yes when you want to say no, carrying things that were never yours, and feeling guilty every time you sit down. Somewhere along the way, many Black women learned that being needed feels safer than being cared for.

And because so many of us have lived in survival mode for so long, stress does not always look dramatic. Sometimes it looks like

  • being unable to rest
  • insomnia
  • irritability
  • brain fog
  • snapping at people you love
  • headaches
  • constantly being “busy”
  • feeling like your body is begging you to slow down while your mind says, “keep going”

You were not put on this earth to be everybody’s life raft. You deserve support, femininity, and a life where you do not have to earn rest by burning yourself out first.

Forward this to the Black woman in your life who is always “good” even when she is not. Then ask yourself: what is one thing I can stop carrying this month?


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Your partner in wellness,

Erika T. Kendrick, LPC

600 1st Ave, Ste 330 PMB 92768, Seattle, WA 98104-2246
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Hey Sis! I'm Erika T. Kendrick a Licensed Professional Counselor who loves empowering Black women to leave survival mode behind, "pack your bags" to flee burnout, and live a life where you can truly rest.

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